In this day in age, it can be exceedingly difficult to find “The One.” Thanks to the Internet, however, we don’t have to rely on matchmakers, setups from our parents, or crowded bars on a Saturday night in order to find people to date.
Online Dating Facts and Figures
According to the Pew Research Center, 15% of adults in the United States report that they have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps. And the stats indicate that those numbers will only continue to climb. In fact, online dating has jumped among all demographics, with the share of people ages 18 to 24 roughly tripling from when the Pew Research Center first conducted polls back in 2005. Another age group with considerably higher usage rates? Those looking for love from age 55 to 64. But one of the most interesting facts to consider is that 5% of Americans who are in a marriage or committed relationship indicate that they met their significant other online.
In a Ted Talk, Amy Webb talks about how she “hacked” online dating, reverse engineering it so that she could find the perfect man. And find him, she did! After collecting the data and crunching the numbers, Amy found the man she would go on to marry. And her Ted Talk has a wealth of tips and tricks that any of us can use to make sure we’re successful with online dating.
Find your Niche
There are so many dating sites out there, and each of them will draw a slightly different crowd of people. For the serious daters, there’s eHarmony, which is for people looking to get married and settle down; for the younger crowd, there’s the casually sardonic OkCupid; and for the hookup crowd there’s Tinder. But there are even more specific sites, like a website for a specific religious group, or a site just for farmers, or a site for cat enthusiasts. No matter what you’re into, there’s probably an online dating site to reflect your interests.
Know What You Want
Regardless of what site you choose, once you sign up, you need to have a fairly solid idea of what you’re looking for. That way you can pointedly search instead of vaguely browse profile page after countless profile page. Because regardless of what you’re looking for, there is bound to be someone who fits the bill.
Know How to Best Present Yourself
You want to be honest about who and what you are, but you also want to know the best way to present yourself. This isn’t about being “fake” or “phony,” but rather about learning how to make yourself more approachable. Look at the type of language you use — is it acerbic, or welcoming? And is this version of you who you actually want to be?
“There is an algorithm for love,” Webb says, “it’s just not the ones that we’re being presented with online. In fact, it’s something that you write yourself.” So, get out there and start writing your love story!