The ASAP Science video [above] discusses the fundamental chemistry of falling in love, and concludes by saying that there is still a lot that scientists don’t know about why we fall in love, and stay in love. There’s nothing wrong with a little mystery. Science has taken a long hard look at a lot of other love-related myths, too. Here are the top three romantic myths that science has debunked.
Myth Number 1: Online Dating Sites are Last Resorts for Desperate Losers
Back in the early days of the internet, online dating carried a heavy stigma. These days, it’s more acceptable than it used to be, but people still get funny looks when they answer the question, “How did you guys meet?” with, “On the internet!” According to a study conducted by the consumer group Which?, more than 62% of people who used online dating sites said it was not only easier, but more satisfying, to meet people online than any other way. In fact, 94% of people who meet online make it to at least the second date. What accounts for this huge success? There is usually a fair exchange of information about one another before deciding to meet in person; and if people are honest realistic standards are set and met. This cuts down on outlandish expectations and even greater disappointments.
Myth Number 2: Gamer Geeks Never Get Dates
It’s so easy to poke fun at gamer nerds, and pop culture rarely misses an opportunity to remind us that people who play World of Warcraft in their mother’s basement are fat, Cheeto dust-covered losers who don’t know how to talk to girls. But the reality is about as far away as you can possibly get from that overused stereotype.
According to a study by IGN Entertainment and Ipsos MediaCT, 55% of gamers polled were married. Moreover, the average gaming household had a notably higher income than that of non-gaming households. Interestingly enough, gamers are 13% more likely to go out to a movie, 11% more likely to play a sport, and 9% more likely to go out with friends than non-gamers. The real kicker? Gamers were twice as likely to go out on dates in any given month than their non-gaming counterparts. There went that myth!
Myth Number 3: Feminism Kills Romantic Relationships
Another harmful stereotype is that of the man-hating feminist who refuses to shave her armpits, never wears makeup, and shuns all sexy clothing (to subvert male oppression). While there is nothing wrong with doing any of that, the fact of the matter is that women who identify as feminists are more likely to be in a relationship than women who don’t claim feminism as an identifier. Furthermore, the men whose partners identified as feminists indicated more satisfaction with their sex lives. This is may be related to feminists’ self-confidence or sense of freedom to express themselves, but regardless of the reasons: feminism can be a good thing for both women and men.